You Will Remember!
Parental Alienation Survivor | Author | Podcast Creator & Host of iWasErased Reflections | Giving Voice to Erased Parents | Creator of the iWasErased Newsletter
January 13, 2026
I am weak. I am strong. I am on the ground and rising, but mostly I am a parent who will fight to be in my child’s life, and I refuse to give up this battle. You, the alienator, thought you knew me so well. You did not. Instead, you underestimated the power of love born between a parent and their child. You did not understand the lengths we will go to preserve what is ours.
All those moments spent fruitlessly trying to erase me from our child’s mind will not work. They remember who I am, who I was, and who I could have been to them. They cannot forget the bonds we once shared and the joy we had when we were together. They remember the good times when we would sing the silliest songs, laugh, and play together. They remember!
You can keep me away in the physical sense by limiting my time with our children. You may even poison their minds against me with false thoughts and lies, but in the end, they know the truth, and one day they will come to the understanding of what you have cost them in their lives. All those wasted years when they were denied me, as a parent. The missed hugs and love. They will remember.
Every moment of every day and of every year you spend trying to hurt me is something that brings you immediate gratification as you watch me wither in pain. This is something you take great pleasure in and relish the thought of inflicting more harm in your misguided desire for revenge against me for a failed relationship. I will remember.
The fact is, you are causing the same effects on our children. The immediate and long-term emotional harm to them may not be visible to you because you are blinded by your own actions against me. However, it is evident to others, and they see what you are doing. You can deny any wrongdoing, but the truth cannot remain hidden forever. All will remember.
There shall come a day of reckoning when you are no longer in control and must face what you have done. No longer will you be able to hide behind the lies and deceit that you carefully crafted to suit your needs of betrayal. The moment you secretly feared will arrive, and all you had hoped to keep hidden will be revealed for all to see. You will remember.
For those who believed in you and all the false testimonies you provided, it is they who will also come under the scrutiny of our children. They, many times, blindly aided you in the effort to destroy the relationship we had with our children, and they, with us. Others were enlisted because they are much the same as you are. For this, they will remember.
For now, you have me on the ground and keep me there to ensure you are successful in hurting me in the most extreme and emotional ways possible. This is changing, and I am learning how to live again. I will not allow you to continue this pattern of abuse. My children and I deserve more, and I have the resolve in my heart and soul to never let them down. They will remember this.
Soon, I will rise above all you have placed in my path and no longer be a slave to the pain and heartache you have forced me to endure. The shackles, which once bound me, are loosening and shall soon fall to the ground. This is when the time arrives, and you will understand you really didn’t know me. I am stronger than you think, and I love my children more than you believe.
These are the things you will remember!
By David Shubert
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As much as I truly appreciate this post….especially its energy, perhaps I could offer the caveat that, for the majority of alienators, afflicted as they are by their narcissistic visions of themselves, (the alienator in my life, for example), they will remain grossly impaired, unable to see or especially recognize and acknowledge the harm they have caused.
I, too, want to believe that someday the lights will come on for alienators, but, in my own situation, I was one who walked away, and pretty much closed the door after seventeen years of trying. While I wouldn’t, necessarily, recommend that kind of action, I felt the need to do so to protect myself from further emotional and psychological abuse….It feels better, but the loss and grief remain a painful daily burden that I have chosen to carry.
I’m so sorry btw it’s just so heartbreaking — criminal really sucking everything from you