Your Inner Strength!
Parental Alienation Survivor | Author | Podcast Creator & Host of iWasErased Reflections | Giving Voice to Erased Parents | Creator of the iWasErased Newsletter
November 18, 2025
Life is, without doubt, complex and fraught with unimaginable obstacles. Often, we walk a path that is much like a tightrope, leading us in opposite directions. One leads us towards happiness, and the other, self-destruction. One false move and we will tip over to the other side. It is for this reason that we must remain in control of ourselves at all times. Though difficult as it may be.
This is why it is so vital that we learn the art of self-healing. Suppose we allow the opposing forces to consume us and control our emotions. In that case, we will invariably wind up a motionless heap on the ground, never to recover the joy we once had in our lives. This is not something that any of us would typically choose, but many times do allow to happen.
Such is the case when we find ourselves locked into the battle of parental alienation. The aggressor knows all too well that they will win the fight if they can continue their wrongful actions long enough. Further, it is their aim to keep us in a weakened state of mind so that we are unable to function on either an emotional or mental level, which keeps us sharp.
No one will ever know the struggles alienated parents face as we fight the most important fight of our lives. They know not the emotional pain nor the depression that often engulfs us. They simply cannot understand what they have never experienced. At times, we will lose hope and desire, and just want to give up on the world and all the heartache that has been brought upon us because of the alienation from our children.
These are things that only we know, and we carry them inside us every moment of every day, and it is a pain that no one should be made to endure. Some of us will never recover because we are unable to find the inner strength we each possess. Many times, it is near and other times it is hidden in a place that is out of reach, but we do, in fact, all have it inside us. We just have to search for it.
When we go through these troubling times, we must never give up the hope of finding justice for ourselves and for our children. We have to keep the faith alive that we will be reunited with the children who have been so unceremoniously stolen from us. Be it the alienator, their enablers, or even the family courts, we will fight and do so with a healed mind and emotional inner self. We will prevail!
How do we do this? It is a journey that each of us must walk alone because, just like snowflakes, no two are alike. However, this process begins with you. When we allow our minds to be consumed by a constant focus on what has happened to us and to our children, our thoughts are clouded. We must find other things to concentrate on that distract us during these moments.
Perhaps, aligning ourselves with new people, places, or activities could help in this process. You may have a bucket list of all the things you once wanted to accomplish but never got around to doing. Now is the perfect time to renew this goal. Perhaps you have a place you’ve always wanted to visit but never made the time. Do this now. If, you need counselling, seek this out and let others help.
The main thing is, healing yourself and your emotional being in such a manner that when the day comes and you finally can have your children home again, you will be a complete parent and not a broken one. They need this from you, and only you can make it happen. Do not allow the alienating parent or others to defeat you in this fight.
Remember, you do this for yourself and your children. Reach deep inside yourself and find your inner strength today!
By David Shubert
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