This post really resonates with me. I lost my three adult children to my divorce after 37 years of marriage. It will be four years this holiday season when I was asked to leave my home by my wasband and youngest son. I have been played by, who I thought was my life partner and I’ve lost greatly. The distance has created clarity to the manipulation with myself and children for decades that I just did not see because I was trying so hard to be a good mother, a provider, a homemaker and a wife! I don’t like to feed into the negativity of the narrative, but sometimes you just have to speak your truth. I live my life to the fullest of my ability, but there’s always that wait-and-see mentality. I don’t know if anyone else has been able to successfully defend themselves in a similar situation, thus far I haven’t. I have sent amends letters, phone calls, text messages and emails to no avail.
Hello, Anne—I’m sorry to hear about what’s been happening in your life.Much like yourself, there are many of us in the same position with our children who are both, children, and even adults.
When you says that sometimes you have to speak up, I agree, because if you don’t do so, the toxic energy you carry inside only festers.
Also, you mentioned you are trying to live your life to the fullest and I strongly recommend this for any parent going thru this trauma. Not only does it remind you that, while you may not have you'r children, you’re still alive. Plus, if you choose to remain “stuck”, the you will do your children any good, if and when they return to your arms—thei need to find their pare whole, and not, broken.
This post really resonates with me. I lost my three adult children to my divorce after 37 years of marriage. It will be four years this holiday season when I was asked to leave my home by my wasband and youngest son. I have been played by, who I thought was my life partner and I’ve lost greatly. The distance has created clarity to the manipulation with myself and children for decades that I just did not see because I was trying so hard to be a good mother, a provider, a homemaker and a wife! I don’t like to feed into the negativity of the narrative, but sometimes you just have to speak your truth. I live my life to the fullest of my ability, but there’s always that wait-and-see mentality. I don’t know if anyone else has been able to successfully defend themselves in a similar situation, thus far I haven’t. I have sent amends letters, phone calls, text messages and emails to no avail.
Hello, Anne—I’m sorry to hear about what’s been happening in your life.Much like yourself, there are many of us in the same position with our children who are both, children, and even adults.
When you says that sometimes you have to speak up, I agree, because if you don’t do so, the toxic energy you carry inside only festers.
Also, you mentioned you are trying to live your life to the fullest and I strongly recommend this for any parent going thru this trauma. Not only does it remind you that, while you may not have you'r children, you’re still alive. Plus, if you choose to remain “stuck”, the you will do your children any good, if and when they return to your arms—thei need to find their pare whole, and not, broken.
Thank you for your kind and insightful words
You're most welcome, Ann Marie!